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The pain and shock is unbelievable! How are you coping with your feelings? Maybe you feel abandoned, rejected, and unworthy of love. I was numb. It hurt so much…but I got through it. I was forced to rebuild, to start over. You will feel happy and whole again. This, too, shall pass. Take another deep breath, and know that you are loved. Below, I describe how healthy and good it means to have spaces in your togetherness. And believe me, you will be in a new relationship again one day. For now, remember that if you can set your boyfriend or husband free — especially when he has told you in multiple ways that does not love you anymore — you yourself will be set free.
Sometimes you just have to let go, especially when he says he fell out of love with you. But you can let go. These tips will show you how to grieve and take care of yourself. Need encouragement? Grieving, healing, and starting over is a process. It takes time. You may find yourself moving forward and then falling back into your old patterns.
Allow yourself to grieve the end of your relationship in your own way, at your own pace. When you are ready, you will start finding ways to rebuild your life. Give yourself time to go through the natural stages of grief. Allow yourself space, privacy, and time to cry and work through your sadness, disbelief, anger, and hurt. Write in your journal, listen to sad songs about breakups, and let your heart break. You need to move through the pain before you can start to heal. You may find yourself thinking about him constantly. What is he doing, why did he fall out of love with you, where is he now, who is he spending time with?
What caused him to stop loving you, and when did he fall out of love? While those questions and feelings are natural, they are unanswerable. Instead, accept that it is time to start rebuilding your self-image and identity. Learn what it means to truly love and care for yourself. It hurts and it is very sad…but if you accept this breakup for what it is, you will heal. He may be confused, unhealthy, addicted — who knows? It just means his feelings have changed. He fell out of love not because of anything you are, or did, or said…but because of things he may not even be aware of.
The healthiest thing you can do is accept how he feels. More importantly, pay attention to how you think and feel. Take a step back from him and your relationship. Your instinct may be to move closer and try to win him back, but you will lose yourself in the process. Find your self-identity. Figure out who you are apart from your marriage, relationship, kids, and relatives. Give yourself room to breathe. The best way to get through something like the pain of heartbreak is to refuse to go through it alone.
Instead of continuing to fight your way through the brambles and dark patches, take my hand. May you learn that accepting what your boyfriend or husband says is true. Is this the relationship you wanted for yourself, before you met him? Would you want your daughter, sister, or best friend to be in this relationship? Does your partner willingly meet your needs and respect your wishes? Do you do the same for him? That may help you look at your relationship and decide if you want to stay or leave.
Recently, I discovered two phrases that soothe my soul when something falls flat or spirals out of control…. Our earth is breathtaking and beautiful, and heartbreaking and lonely. Our lives are bittersweet, filled with pain and joy, loss and blessings. Every painful moment and joyous experience is in its place. We are in our places, exactly as planned. Get this: he gets out of bed one morning and cracks his head on the rafter of the ceiling. And what does he do? Practice this today. Just so, my friend, because everything belongs.
She adds that sometimes — to get the life you were meant to have — you have to face the death of what you thought your life would look like. This means accepting and surrendering to reality as it is…not as you wish it was.
This is your life right now, for better or worse. How it turns out — how you cope with the most painful words you may ever hear — is completely and totally up to you. Talking about your experience can be helpful. Writing is especially healing because it forces you to slow down, examine your thoughts, and face your feelings more deeply. Writing your story can also help you figure out what happened in your relationship. You may never find all the answers, but you can work through the questions.
Sometimes we need to go outward to realize we need belong inward. Notify me of follow-up comments by . Notify me of new posts by . My boyfriend and I broke up. I have been thinking about him — dream, even — and I just need to find some place to pour this out. He was one of my best friends. There were four of us and he was the only guy. But our friendship went on for two years before the other two girls had to move out and we were both left with each other. He was a calm presence and I never thought anything of it but pure friendship and companionship.
No malice whatsoever. It became a routine for us until we barely noticed that he was already sleeping in my house at least twice a week. One night, something felt odd about him, he was looking at me differently.
The next time he slept in my house, he told me that he loved me. Our rendezvous continued and our friends were soo surprised to see us as a couple. We honestly never thought of him as a guy before we became a couple. He accepted a position for work in a different country.
It started out okay, but then he got busy. I tried not to complain but the calls became less and less. I was trying to apply for a job in that country as well, but I had problems with my papers. He left, following life as it came, but where he was was my dream. It was my dream country. It was my dream life. I think my dreams put too much pressure on him. I think he felt as thought I wanted him to bring me there. That was when the calls became even more distant. I felt depressed, because I hated where I was. I was in a job that I hated and I could not get out of it because I had no choice.
I was forced into that job by my mother because she believed it was financially stable. I know I should have had my own choice, but I do not know how to explain how manipulative my mother is. I was drained, unhappy and struggling. I could not run to him. But still, in the midst of that struggle, I continued to choose him. Because his definition of love was to choose a person over and over no matter what — and I clung to that.
I resolved to run to other people for comfort whenever I had problems. I resolved to run to other people to get the attention that I needed. I resolved to run to others when all I wanted to do was run to him. I was beyond depressed. I kept being given hope and then pushed to the gutter by this awesome reality of life. I cried my eyes one night. It was the most painful tears I have ever poured out in my entire life and how stupid was I to be thinking if he could be busy for my call? Someone else called me. And all these time, I wondered why these people had time for me, but not him.
Why are other people capable of giving me time and attention — but not him? My dreams worked out in the end. I was able to arrive in my dream country but it was hours away from his place. It took me more than a year before I arrived but I finally did. We met a few weeks later and he was not the same. He travelled four hours to see me for two then back again for another four hours. My new friends saw him leave and they asked how I was.My last boyfriend told me i am easy to be with
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